You’re just out of alignment, love.
If you’re struggling with anxiety, it may feel like you have completely lost your identity. As if some stranger took it over and now you are so far removed from your “old self” and that little intuitive voice that used to guide you. So much so, that you’re no longer recognizable in the mirror.
Anxiety comes in many shapes and sizes. There isn’t a “one size fits all” when it comes to mental health.
For some, anxiety is the restless nights of sleep with a mind that doesn’t want to shut off. The over-thinking about all of your worst fears and things that could go wrong. The dreaded "what ifs".
Anxiety is being in a state of sensory overload where your eyes feel like they can’t take in anymore light and where everything is too loud, all while your heart is beating out of your chest and it’s hard to take even one breath.
Anxiety is feeling “fake” and not grounded in your own body, or feeling so detached from the world. Everything may feel dreamy and not like it used to, including yourself.
Anxiety is the constant self-doubt and lack of confidence both in yourself and those around you, leading you to do things like be indecisive or over-apologize for things that don’t require an “I’m sorry.” The self-doubt that holds us back from unapologetically OWNING it.
But we’re not here to define and pick apart every aspect of anxiety. We would literally be here for days, but also, there’s just no need to dwell on the symptoms. They’re all caused by the same thing, so now we just have to move forward.
Listen, I’ve been there. And I’m here to tell you – don’t be afraid. You have not lost yourself. The old YOU is still there, just out of balance.
Believe it or not, experiencing anxiety is your body’s way of protecting itself from threatening situations. This physiological fight or flight response is our sympathetic nervous system’s primitive, automatic response that prepares the body to "fight" or "flee" when it feels in danger. It’s actually trying to help you survive. Like a form of self-preservation, even though it feels like the complete opposite in that moment.
But how does the body get into this state of fear and panic in the first place? It starts with being out of alignment with your true self, your soul, your Truth. This then makes us feel unsettled, and thus, anxious.
Maybe you have self-limiting beliefs about what you’re capable of and are stuck in that job that you have zero passion for, but you’re doing it because you feel there is no alternative.
Maybe you have been surrounded by toxic friends your whole life who always tend to look on the negative side of things and don’t support you.
Maybe you’ve been a people-pleaser and have a hard time saying no to others.
Maybe you have been feeding yourself a diet that isn't nourishing enough for your gut and your mind.
There are be so many reasons why you may be out of alignment, but I’m here to help you restore it so you can get closer to your Truth and start living your full potential.
Ask yourself this: Is my external reality matching up with what I desire? Do I feel stuck?
Things are not meant to be hard. When we are in alignment, life is just… easier.
Your work, your relationships – they become far less complicated and way more fulfilling. You feel connected to things outside of yourself. You no longer feel isolated. You attract the right people and opportunities to your life. Money flows to you without having to hustle so hard all the time. You have the energy, stamina, and confidence to put yourself out there. You feel clear and motivated when it comes to discovering and pursuing your dreams. Your nervous system cools down a bit and your anxiety starts to go away.
When you are in alignment, you get to experience happiness. You are in a natural state of flow. You feel clear rather than confused. Your hear your intuition loud and clear. You are connected to the blueprint in your soul that makes it easier to make decisions in life.
You get to be who you were called here to be.
You’re not meant to struggle and suffer. Somewhere along the way your mind and body just had a little too much and got thrown off balance.
After all, you weren’t born anxious.
Say it with me. “I am not my anxiety.”
For more information about my Fun, Fearless Female anti-anxiety program, head over here.
The recent spring equinox in the Northern Hemisphere marks the end of winter and the start of a new chapter. Around this time, people rejoice over new beginnings, the blossoming of plants, and the longer days that tell us that summer is just around the corner.
But the new season is not only manifesting outside of us, but also within us. This awakening of nature during the spring season can influence all beings to be more active. We all need to take advantage of this active time and do a little self-renovation.
It is a time for renewal, upheaval, and change.
What version of yourself do you want to put forth the rest of the year? What aspects of your life are out of balance? What changes can you make to stabilize that swinging pendulum?
Here’s what you can do to give yourself a little spring tune-up:
Many people associate the winter solstice with being THE time for reflection. It’s true, the dark days are perfect for spending time evaluating what is no longer serving us anymore and observing areas of our life that we want to improve on. But, I urge you to take another glance and go inward again. Maybe you missed a few things or maybe some new things came up during the winter that need some reflection.
Whether you take a long walk every day and watch the trees blossom, take time to sit in meditation, or dive deep into your yoga practice, this is an ideal time to reflect and see if you are in alignment with your truth. Not your fleeting thoughts and emotions. Your truth. The inner voice that so often gets overpowered by that monkey mind that constantly thinks and over-analyzes. This is the only time during the year when night and day are about equal in length and thus, a time that the the earth, and you, should be in perfect balance.
To keep track of your reflections, journalling discoveries about yourself and your new goals will connect you with who/where you are and where you’d like to go. It's a perfect time to reflect on the aspects of yourself you'd like to let go of, what you'd like to welcome in, and what you can do to create more balance in your life.
The work starts with some introspection.
CREATE A NEW VISION
As part of your reflection, it’s important to literally create a vision and dust off the old one that has been holding you back. What does your most authentic self look like? Literally visualize these changes, maybe with the help of a vision board with pictures that you look at every day.
Creating a vision involves two things. First and foremost, concentrating on that vision and thinking positively about attaining it automatically puts out the energy you want to attract. You receive the same vibrations that you radiate. You have to reprogram your mind to believe that what you want is indeed achievable.
Secondly, you need to create a blueprint. How are you going to proactively integrate these changes you desire into your life?
Now that you have a better idea of what you need to do to get into alignment, it’s time to take action. The first step in taking action is to clean up. This includes ridding the things that no longer align with you such as a toxic friendship, your unfulfilling job, that negative mindset that destroys everything good in your life, or that comfort zone that has been blocking you from new opportunities to help you grow up until now.
Spring cleaning also means literally cleaning up. It’s the perfect time to reset and refresh your home, your workspace, your garden. Take a look into your closets and donate the clothes you haven’t worn in a year, declutter your attic or garage, give those dirty windows a good cleaning finally, diffuse some refreshing lemon essential oils, and redesign/redecorate your living room to a version that suits you better now.
Did you know that mess and clutter affect our minds? Studies have shown that physical clutter in our surroundings actually impacts us mentally. In fact, it competes for our attention, resulting in decreased performance and increased stress. It overloads our senses, making us feel overwhelmed, and impairs our ability to think creatively.
The clearer your environment, the clearer your mind.
PLANT NEW SEEDS (literally and figuratively)
The second step in taking action is to start integrating changes into your life. No matter how big, any step forward is a step in the right direction.
Let’s take money as an example. Say you want to create more financial freedom in your life. How are you doing to do that? Maybe that means starting with a few books to help you change your idea of money. Did you grow up thinking that money was hard to achieve, that money was only for the lucky ones? Start by changing your relationship/thoughts about money. And what about that online business dream that you have? Whether it’s learning how to create a website or putting some money aside to help you invest in it, it all starts with one seed.
And literally, get outside and plant some seeds. Check what bulbs and seeds are ready to be planted in your yard, or start sprouting some seeds indoors in preparation for that veggie garden you have in mind. A new hobby like this can help bring some more peace into your life and gives you something else to focus on. It’s like a kind of meditation.
Let’s make use of the opportunities that this time of the year and awakening of nature is providing us with. I wish everyone strength and guidance, and to continue walking one step closer to your most authentic self.
She’s in there somewhere, just waiting to blossom.